A couple of you left comments on this mornings post that really bummed me out. P says that as my blog gets bigger I just need to realize that there are more people reading & therefore it’s more likely that someone’s not going to like what I have to say. But it still bums me out. Could be sensitivity, could be hormones…but I think it’s more how much I really do you think of you guys as my friends & it feels awful when a friend takes something you say the wrong way. So bear with me a minute & let me clarify…
Absolutely if you physically can’t breastfeed your child, you should not feel guilty. What choice do you have?? I mean, there’s just so much to make moms feels guilty nowadays & I don’t want to contribute to that.
On the other hand let me give you a bit of insight into where I was coming from.
First, I only breastfed Samantha for 4 mths. (then pumped for 1 mth after that) The reason I didn’t go longer is because it had become a battle. I gave her a bottle of pumped milk here & there when she was only a week or two old. (I wanted Daddy to be able to do the 3a feeding…I mean, he’s up anyway right?) No one ever told me that by doing that I was taking a chance on her preferring the bottle to me & never really learning the skill of breastfeeding first. But that’s exactly what happened, then when she didn’t want to breastfeed I’d give up & give her a bottle of formula. Mistake two, I didn’t know that if I was giving her a bottle I needed to pump to make up for that feeding or else my body would think it needed to make less milk. Now I’ve got less milk on top of a kid that was already pissed that my boobs didn’t flow like a bottle. Can you see the downward spiral?
What absolutely killed me what that I knew how good breastmilk was for her, I set out to do it, it was something that I really wanted but after a few uninformed mistakes it just wasn’t going to happen for us. That’s why I wanted to become a Lactation Consultant. To let moms know that breastfeeding isn’t always just this beautiful instinct experience where you put the kid to your bosom & nature takes over. It’s work at first & there are some pitfalls that can make it even tougher BUT if I can inform someone of what I’ve learned than I know that they’ll have a better chance of giving their baby the absolutely best.
And that’s the other reason I posted the article…it really truly is the best & every single week at the hospital I get a new mom has no idea how different breastmilk & formula really are. Once one actually asked for the “breastmilk in a can”. I won’t bore you all with the details here because as one commenter pointed out “this is a craft blog” but I KNOW that most moms love their babies beyond belief & if they just knew some of the statistics of exclusively breastfed babies in comparison with formula they would breastfeed their kids. Unfortunately we live in a society that has been well marketed by the formula companies & although most people know “breast is best” I don’t think they REALLY know the details of how much better it is. So that’s why I thought it was good to throw the link up in a quick little tidbit post, maybe it would inform one mom & she would think twice before giving that bottle of formula. I never expected it to turn into a long-winded late night posting by me… Perhaps I should’ve taken my husband’s advice & not replied back. But that’s just not me…so thanks for letting me get that off my chest. I promise tomorrow I already have a great craft all typed & done for you. (: