I remember at my bridal shower we played this game where everyone who was already married wrote down anonymous advice for the new couple and then I had to read them all aloud. I had at least two if not three cards that read “Don’t go to bed angry“.
Does anyone really do this? I mean REALLY, you never ever ever go to bed angry? You always solve your arguments before going to sleep? Always? Bologney. No offense, but I just don’t see how that’s possible! P and I are going on our 3rd year of marriage and although our arguments aren’t as fiery as they were when we first married (I think we’re both just too tired now and give up easy) they certainly aren’t always resolved by bedtime.
Tonight I’m going to bed miffed. For the second night in a row. Last night I was fuming mad, the kind where you make sure your feet don’t accidentally brush against his under the covers because you don’t want to show any sign that might tell him you’re anything less than FURIOUS. Tonight I’m still perturbed. So here we are, laying in bed, both on laptops, not really talking and there’s this nagging voice in my head that says (in a Glenda the Good Witch voice) “Don’t go to bed angryyyyy!” But I’m sorry, I’m still pissed! And so is he. So guess what? We’re going to bed mad.
Does anyone else do this or am I the only one who can’t seem to keep the number one dispensed newlywed rule?
ps– Samster’s ultrasound went great! She was SOOOO good, she just gave the sonographer a death stare the whole time like “who the heck do you think you are putting cold goop on my belly? Don’t you know who I am? I’m Samster! I’m SO gonna talk to your supervisor about this.”
She said we should find out the results from the pediatrician tomorrow…
My DH and I go to bed angry. Most of the time before we leave for work it's solved. Some days not until we come home from work. It helps to sleep on things and wake up rested with a clear head.
My DH and I go to bed angry. Most of the time before we leave for work it's solved. Some days not until we come home from work. It helps to sleep on things and wake up rested with a clear head.
I stay angry for as long as it takes for me not to be. If that requires me going to bed angry, so be it. It has actually been proven that fights become more intense and frustrating the longer you stay awake and argue about it. At some point, you just become so delirious from lack of sleep, you stop making any sense and the fight just gets worse.
Glad the ultrasound went well, lots of prayers for the results.
My husband and I go to bed angry. I hate it and I wish we didn't. Neither of us sleep good. We wake up and have a terrible day the next day or we get over it the next morning but there's no resolution. It's miserable. But yet I still do it!
We went to bed angry last night. It's better today, but we're both not happy.
So glad to hear the ultrasound went well!!
My mother always told me that sometimes it's better to walk away and cool down before you fight. So whenever I hear the "don't go to bed angry" rule it makes me wince. So does that mean you fight it out while you still feel very touchy about it? Then wouldn't you be more likely to say things you regret later?
Go to bed angry if you must I say! But don't hold grudges! That's more important than flashes of arguments. It's not the anger that hurts a marriage, it's the grudges!
But then I'm also only in the 3rd year of marriage, so what do I know?
I think everyone goes to bed angry although I wish we didn't. Ever since my hubby and I moved in together I have asked him to say goodbye to me before he leaves for work. If we go to bed angry he leaves without saying goodbye to me and that makes me even more angry.
Hope all is well with Sammy!
No, we try not to…if it isn't important enough to stay up and hash out I make myself let go of it before I go to sleep. If I still feel perturbed by it in the morning with sleep under my belt then I know maybe we need to calmly discuss it some more…