Wow, two posts in one day, careful, I think I just felt the world stop…
By the way I PROMISE I’ll get back to my normal crafty blog posts, I just need to get some of this baby stuff off my chest, I hope you don’t mind the personal posts here & there…
I’m writing again because a couple of you commented on my last post that you had VBACs…
(For those of you who don’t know a VBAC is a vaginal birth after cesarean)
I want to have one terribly bad. I know for some women that they are perfectly happy having c-sections, some of my dear friends feel that way. I however am not one of those women. I never anticipated how much I would feel like I missed out on my birth experience by not going through labor, not pushing with my husband by my side & then having my little one placed in my arms. It really bothered me and even months after Sam was born I still didn’t feel like I had “given birth”. People would congratulate me and say I had done such a good job delivering her and I was like, uh, I didn’t do anything, I layed on a table, numb & looped out of my gourd from the heavy meds. Afterwards I was in terrible pain, no one tells you when you have a c-section that you won’t be able to pick up your baby to feed her or comfort her because of your incision. It’s not just a neat, no fuss option for having a baby like they make it seem on tv. It’s major abdominal surgery and should be recognized as such. Now, with that said, on to my reason for writing. (twice in one day! did I mention that?!)
I would love, seriously just be so grateful, for anyone who had tried for and/or had a VBAC to comment or email me with your experience/advice/findings.
This is a touchy subject because some Dr’s will try to scare the bejeebers out of you that your uterus is going to rip open and you’ll die. (which uterine rupture is a risk) however other Dr’s will go as far as to say that as long as your baby isn’t too big or breech & you’ve waited at least a year since your previous c-section that your almost no more likely to have a uterine rupture than if you had no c-section scar.
I’m terribly torn, (no pun intended) I desperately want to go into labor and do this the most natural way. (don’t get me wrong, I’m not opposed to drugs, I plan on leaving that decision for when I’m actually in the pain) but it’s hard to make a decision when you have medical professionals advising you in completely opposite ways. I work in the mother-baby unit at the hospital so I know how different Dr’s can feel about this issue but I have also heard several people in the business admit that their decisions are strictly based on liability issues. It’s sad that we have to worry about our Dr’s advice and could it be swayed by if their premiums will go up verses what’s in our and our babies’ best interest.
Let me say again, you ladies are who cool with c-sections, more power to you. It’s totally your decision & I judge you not for it. I just know that for me I had no idea how much I would feel like I missed out by having one.
Man, hormones must be in overdrive today, I’m getting all sorts of emotional baggage out! (;